Would you forgive your mate easier after they've had a drunkened one night stand, or after discovering that they've had an ongoing relationship (calling, texting, chatting) with someone else?

 

neither is right...I would break it off. Anyone who "tricks" someone else into a committed relationship when they will not be faithful is wrong.

 

i probably wouldn't forgive either way. I don't share my toys well

 

Either way I think they are cheating, it's not right. I wouldn't be with anyone that would hurt me like that, especially because I would probably never be able to trust them again, and things would never be the same.

 

neither if they are not just friends.
i mean its ok to be in a relationship with someone and be friends with someone..
i am with my fiance..i will probably marry him...
i have a guy friend since kindergarten. and i talk to him from time to time..and my man is ok with it ..cause i am just saying whats up how are you..and that's it...
but he would have a fit if i talked to a bunch of other guys he didn't know but i have other guy friends i see out in public and i say hey to...but cheating and lying are bad.....and cheating is worse than just talking to someone..i mean come on..since when is friendship a crime...depends on the circumstances surrounding the texting and talking but the one night stand would mean its over..period...

 

I don't think there is forgiveness for either

 

emotional cheating is harder to get over. you have to wonder what is wrong with you. as far as a one night stand goes, things happen. we are all sexual creatures and sometimes we can't help ourselves after having a few too many. it lowers our inhibitions and awareness of what we are doing. we may or may not feel guilty later.

 

I'v been exploring some online dating sites, although I am engaged.

I do not have direct contact with any of the members, although it should be wrong, It still turns me on.

I think this is called emotional cheating...

 

It would be hard to forgive either, but a drunken one night stand is the easier to forgive. I don't think many people can handle the person they love holding an emotional relationship with another person.

 

If he really loved you he wouldnt do this to you. If he had an ongoing relationship with someone else then why waste your time. He might not care about the other person hes texting either and over time he will just keep hurting anyone hes with. Sounds like he might have commitment issues. Just leave him alone and let him be immature. Its possiblle he could change but its gonna take awhile. Move on for now and if he really loves you he will be back. You deserve to be happy and not have to worry about what hes doin or whos hes calling/textin all the time. If he does try to come back later on make him work for it. If you dont have trust in a relationship then its not worth it!