Tell me your opinions on people living together. What do you feel are the pros and cons. Do you have any personal experience? If so ( and you got married to this person) do you feel that it helped your marriage or hurt it?

 

Only if you have to live together but if theres no need wait until marriage

 

Hi, well i feel that living together before you get married is a good thing. I have been with my kids father for 6 years and we lived together from day one, we were engaged to be married like two years after we got together, I noticed alot of change in him after we were engaged he started being lazy and arguing with me all the time and i felt like i couldn't be with someone like that for the rest of my life. You start looking at all the nasty habits that they do on a day to day basis and you learn alot about the person before you commit to them for the rest of your life and honestly i called of the engagement because i felt like i deserved better than what i had. but my mom lived with my dad before that got married and it helped the marriage they were married for 27 years.

 

I have been married for 10 years and we lived together for 1 1/2 years before we were married. It certainly saved us money on rent. We actually bought our house before we were married. Our pastor told us that when he married us, he hadn't married a couple that didn't live together for about 5 or 6 years. Even his own daughter lived with her boyfriend before she was married. Mainly to save money on rent and such. I wouldn't say that it helped or hurt. You should know if that person is right for you whether you live together or not.

 

I live with my man now. It works for us. It's given me a chance to get to know him in hopes of minimizing another mistake. I'm divorced. Every couple is different. That being said, the couple should decide together what is best for them. If they agree, it will be right decision.

 

I dont think there any any cons to living together before marriage...My husband and I moved in together very quick into our relationship and got engaged 3 years later. This summer we'll be celebrating our first year of marriage. It was the best thing for us, honestly I dont think our marriage would have survived without the cohabiting before

 

Helluva good idea. You want to know what someone is like every second of the day before you marry them. Good days, bad days, good mood, bad mood.....

 

I don't think it's right at all.

 

I don't feel that it is right...
though I can see how it can help give you an idea of how it would be to be married to the person...
BUT I think it is like "playing house" and it just takes away the significance of being married and moving in together after marriage. It is a special moment, to be newly married and moving into your home together.
I am glad I did not live with my husband before we were married. (: But that's me.

 

im all for it. its so different when you live with someone, you really get to know that person inside and out. my husband and i lived together for 8 years before we got married, so far it has been great. no regrets